Conflict

One of the prime heroes in our life’s drama is conflict. We are constantly struggling, against all odds to meet both ends, seldom realizing that we are slaves of our conscious mind. We are in complete identification with our physical body, thought processes and emotions. Conflicts encountered relate to external and internal factors.

External struggles involve problems at home, at work, with society that is, interpersonal conflicts  due to jealousy or disagreement with societal views and ideas. Day to day incidents such as bad weather, delay in transport services irritate us so much that we lose our cool.

Internal chaos, conflict with one’s self. We are continuously burning with fury within, struggling with inner thoughts and desires – To do or not to do; Speak or to keep quiet; Behave in this manner or that… There are times when we are trying to overcome emotional trauma, fears and phobias, alcoholism, drug addiction and so on.

A constant struggle between one’s consciousness and concrete mind leads to anger, anxiety, depression, frustration, stress etc.

Here is a simple exercise to help u go within and experience inner peace and bliss. 

                        

• Take a couple of deep breaths to quiet the mind and calm the nerves. 
• Touch the tip of your tongue to the palate.
• Slowly locate a point on the palate where you will experience inner peace and stillness.
• When you have located this point, experience the inner peace and stillness.

Every time you experience inner turbulence, go within.

Routine practice will help remain calm always….

BREAKUP THE MIND PATTERNS AND EMERGE WITH A NEW DIMENSION OF CONSCIOUSNESS….

S.T.O.P.

We stop driving as soon as we see a red signal. But in our day to day life do we put a brake on our self whenever we see red??? We tend to get carried away emotionally . Often, the turbulence within surfaces in the form of violent irrational behavior. Instead of responding to the situation, we react.


TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR FEELINGS.

As long as you blame people for your feelings, and believe they caused your feelings, you're stuck. You're a helpless victim. But if you recognize the fact that you choose your feelings and are responsible for your feelings, there's hope. Take some time to think about your feelings and decide what is the best thing to say or do.

Luckily, the other day, I heard a talk by Dr. Deepak Chopra and liked his theory. He calls it STOP.

• S = Stop immediately. Get a hold on yourself. Do not react.

• T = Take a couple of deep breaths

• O = Observe yourself. Be aware of your emotions and thoughts

• P = Proceed. Once you have regained control on yourself, move in the correct direction.

Even after years of practice, I do tend to react to the situation and later ruminate over it. We are not perfect but we can always try.

STOP worked for me.

Hope it works for you all as well…. People do not cause your feelings, You choose them.

The Storm

A lady was driving along with her father.


They came upon a storm, and the young lady asked her father, What should I do?

He said "keep driving". Cars began to pull over to the side, the storm was getting worse.

The lady panicked. "What should I do." she asked? "Keep driving," her father replied.

She noticed that trawlers were also pulling over. She told her dad, "I must pull over, I can barely see ahead. It is terrible, and everyone is pulling over!"

Her father told her, "Don't give up, just keep driving!"

Now the storm was terrible, but she continued driving, and soon she could see a little more clearly. After a couple of miles she was again on dry land, and the sun came out.

Her father said, "Now you can pull over and get out." She said "But why now?"

He said "When you get out, look back at all the people that gave up and are still in the storm, because you never gave up, your storm is now over.

Friends, we all go through hard times sometime during our life.

Just because everyone else, even the strongest, gives up, You don't have to...if you keep going, soon your storm will be over and the sun will shine upon your face again.

"Never give up, because GOD never gives up on you."

Hand of GOD

Since the very first day of my life on this planet which we call Earth, GOD has played an array of roles in my life.

These roles did not pull me down but guided me in a number of ways during my life's journey here.

The different roles of GOD which has had a tremendous influence in my life are Father, Mother, Siblings, Teachers, Husband, Children, In laws and Friends...

Lessons learnt from each one --

Father -- Self confidence

Mother -- Love and compassion, Honesty, Non injury

Siblings -- Sharing and caring

Teacher/Guide/Guru --Wisdom, Knowledge, Discipline

Husband -- Trust, Endurance

Children -- Self respect, Faith, Devotion, Trust

In laws -- Acceptance,  Self control, Tolerance

Friends -- Togetherness through thick and thin

These are my life's lessons

What a transformation !!!

What have you learnt.???

Power to Change

We are so immersed rather trapped in our own lives with tasks and responsibilities that the ability to look at ourselves is missing completely. We have forgotten to live, to see the truth of  who we are, why we are as we are and how to change it.

The pain and hardships that follow chronic problems in our lifestyles and relationships play havoc in our lives  so much so that we are unable to get our foothold and bring back equilibrium into our lives.

However, we forget that in reality coping with these unnerving experiences sharpens us to become better individuals.

Simple well chosen words accentuates self confidence, calms an aggressive mind and aids in setting and achieving goals. The most popular line “Every day in every way I am getting better”. Some  call these affirmations Auto-suggestions.

For the positive affirmations to bring about a real change in our life, our subconscious mind, the seat of our true thoughts and behavior, needs to be tapped. Without our subconscious mind a change in our lifestyle is difficult because the conscious mind will resist.

When we  power the mind with positive affirmations we encourage ourselves towards a positive change. These positive affirmations deliver a positive message to our subconscious mind and help boost and reinforce a positive change in us.

• Sit in a quiet place. Relax. Quiet the mind by focusing on your breathing. This will help you to develop mental self-control and avoid distractions.
• Incorporate a wish for some goal to be reached and an expectation that it will.
• Evoke a strong positive affirmation during the process.

Let us bloom like the lotus because  the lotus swarms muddy waters, being held by a stem which rarely breaks no matter how much pressure  is applied.