Understanding Anger

Anger is one of the most dangerous, traumatic and painful emotion. Often we feel hurt and insulted by somebody‘s words.
That’s what we think and feel -- an incorrect perception.
It is always our own creation. We hurt and insult our own self by creating such feelings as part of our response in our mind.
As an example, if someone calls me irresponsible does not mean I am irresponsible. It is his/her understanding of me. It is not my perception of me because I know I am not irresponsible.
Either the individual doesn't know me very well or he/she thinks and feels negative for some reason as a result he/she perceives me as irresponsible.
Therefore, one must realize that“No one can insult you and no one can make you feel anything”, these emotions are created by our own responses…..

Sandpaper

Relationships-A learning experience

Through our relationships we can know ourselves. We are a mirror for both. What we give to others at the level of our thoughts, feelings and attitudes reflects on ourselves and finally comes back to us from others. Our relationships are the learning laboratory of our life. Every interaction teaches a lesson.The more you get to know yourself in the mirror of your relationships the more easily you will be able to understand others.
As an experiment, take two relationships - one person who is close to you and one person who is not so close, look at it, explore it and ask yourself what it tells you about yourself and your life? Reflect on each relationship and make a note of what each of these people seems to bring out in you when you are with them. What part of your self would you want to see more developed in each of these relationships e.g. humour, patience, humility etc.? What will you do to develop these aspects of your personality?

Relationship and Love

Relationship is not simply getting along with others, it is about understanding, building, nourishing and caring. Theses are different forms of love. Love can be experienced at four levels – physical, mental, intellectual and spiritual.
The deepest love is spiritual and it happens when two souls experience themselves as spiritual beings. There are no barriers, no expectation, no desire for each other. There is complete transparency and each one is so strong within themselves that no matter what the other may say or do they can never be hurt.When two individuals think the same thought i.e. a unity of thought, it is love at a mental level. Meeting of hearts is when we encounter another who feels exactly as we do.
Unfortunately, most of us experience ourselves as bodies and consider physical attraction and physical attachment as a form of love.

Confidence

Confidence is nothing but the distant vision held positively no matter what comes in between....
It comes from one's own commitment and dedication, entirely internal.....

A True Story – Smile Always!!

One sunny morning after much ado and fuss, I rushed out to reach my place of work. The scorching heat, the hustle and bustle of people, the slow moving traffic and cars honking wildly, added to my fuming state. I was already late for the morning meeting. The boss’s face, red and purple, hands on his hips, raised fear in me. What am I going to say today!!!

The visions haunted me as I walked along the pavement amongst rows of slum dwellers. I quickened my pace cursing softly to no one in particular. Suddenly, out of nowhere this little creature appeared in front of me. Completely in rags, sweaty and dirty. I stopped for a second and turned away least caring. An unfortunate, homeless, vagabond, I thought to myself and continued at my steady pace, carrying a knotty stomach filled with butterflies.

Like a leech, he walked alongside me staring wide eyed at my plight, studying me. Short of breath, I halted. He halted with me and smiled lovingly. Completely in awe, I was bowled over by his innocence. A renewed feeling full of love and warmth swept over me. I smiled back at him with an outstretched hand which he shook willingly. I thanked him with a chocolate bar.

I went my way and he his. I continued my walk with a new surge of confidence. I entered the office with a smile and a grin. My beaming face cleared the tense atmosphere lurking around the office staff. His smile had inspired me, brightened my day and lingered with me all day long.
“ A Smile can do Wonders in a Person’s Life”

S-Strong
M-Motivating
I- Inspiring
L-Longlasting
E-Emotion

SMILE ALWAYS-It's free!!! I smiled today, did you???

Park Bench Meditation-Exhilarating experience

Detaching yourself from action increases your ability to concentrate and gradually enables you to be here and now.
A simple meditation technique -though a little difficult initially ended in an exhilarating experience.
Sit quietly without any movement for 30 minutes on a bench in a park and watch the activity around you.
Where I Sat During My Meditation - It's a small park close to my home where I go for my usual evening walk. On one side is a creek overlooking the hills with a bridge over it for trains to cross over. The other side is a public garden with a jogger's park. I sat on the bench which gave me a view of the creek, hills, as well as the garden.
My experience-
§ Little things which normally go unnoticed like the different ways in which people gave bird food to a flock of pigeons.
§ The setting sun casting wild shadows on the still waters of the creek felt like the sun was impatient to embrace the horizon.
§ Flock of birds returning home. The way in which the group remain together the geometry is unbelievable.
§ Children running wild at times with mothers trying to keep abreast.
§ The way in which children ate ice cream oblivious to the world around and mothers fretting, trying to clean the mess.
§ At some point I started vibrating and then felt a chilly breeze around me which sent a chill up my spine resulting in goosebumps and a jolt. It was then that I realised where I was. A different feeling, felt tremendous peace and calm different from the regular meditation.

Lessons Learned
§ Deep breathing before starting helps calm and steady nerves.
§ Meditate with an open mind to experience that state of void or nothingness.
§ Helps curb useless chain of thoughts.
§ Helps to remain alert.
§ Be one with Nature.
§ Be grounded.